Adult anal toys are a staple feature in more bedrooms than you might think. And just in case you were wondering, the answer is yes – they’re just as popular with men as they are with women.
Still, it’s understandable how anal bringing anal toys into play for the first time there can be a daunting prospect for many people. As can bringing up the subject of using them with a partner, having perhaps not yet gauged whether they’re as into the idea as you are.
On the plus side, make an effort to bring anal toys into the bedroom (successfully), and it could radically transform your sex life. You simply have to overcome that initial learning curve, after which the rest slides into place quite naturally…pun intended.
With this in mind, here is a brief overview of 7 tips for bringing anal sex toys into the bedroom for the first time and enjoying them to their full potential:
Get Your Brain in Gear
First, getting your brain in gear means casting aside any doubts or concerns that what you are doing is ‘wrong’ or ‘dirty’. It’s not – it’s quite fantastic, and you’ll soon see what all the fuss is about. The truth is, you can’t get genuine enjoyment out of anything your brain isn’t 100% into the idea of. It might take a handful of sessions before you get things right but remember – practice makes perfect.
If the whole thing is making you rather nervous, but you are still determined to give it a shot, the track is practicing with a little solo action first. This can be a good way to establish your own boundaries and physical limitations before involving another person in the process. The ins and outs of anal play are quite different from those of conventional sex and may, again take a little time to get used to. If in doubt, bust out the anal toys for some solo fun, and see how it all works.
Keep Things Clean
No need to get too bogged down in the details right here, but suffice it to say, a high level of hygiene is essential for enjoyable (and safe) anal play. Both for the gadgets you bring into the bedroom and your own body, it’s a good idea to have a stockpile of high-quality wet wipes and some kind of antibacterial cleanser close to hand. Things may inevitably get a little messy from time to time, but that’s all part and parcel of the experience.
Experiment with Different Types of Toys
Most people getting into anal play the first time set their sights on one specific type of toy. Which is fine, but there’s a whole world of weird and wonderful gadgets to enjoy the hell out of. From butt plugs to anal beads to vibrators in every imaginable shape and size, much of the enjoyment of the whole thing lies in experimentation. And it probably goes without saying that if you like one type of anal toy, you’ll probably like almost everything else on offer, too.
Start Slow and Small
For reasons of pure comfort (and to avoid doing yourself an injury in the process), it is important to start out slow and small with anal toys. Set your sights on something you think you can handle comfortably – perhaps no larger in diameter than a finger. Proceed with care and caution, and be sure to respond to your body’s unique physiology. Or, to put it another way, if things get unpleasantly uncomfortable or painful, stop what you’re doing and try again another time.
Be Liberal with the Lube
Newcomers, in particular, need to ensure they go to extremes with lubrication. Lube plays an important part in anal play in general, but it is never more vital than when easing yourself into it for the first time. However much you think you need, always use a little more. Keep a good supply on standby and enjoy the slippery ride.
Feel the Vibe
Last, opting for a vibrating anal sex toy is recommended for a newcomer. Not just because the vibrations add even more pleasure to the experience but also the way they naturally relax the muscles. Something that could make it easier for you to accommodate your very first anal sex toy with minimal initial discomfort.